HEART BREAK AND BREAKUPS!!! HOW DO YOU HANDLE IT?

We all dread any slight or sharp change in the heart of that person we love romantically. But it happens... Change is constant. Even married people change their hearts (the worst type of heartbreaks). As a result, people lose their minds. Some harden their hearts. The weak commit suicide. It's that bad. But it can handled and well-managed. Depending on which choice you wish to make. Since heartbreaks are inevitable, learning and preparing for it won't be a bad idea. 

Are/have you (been) heartbroken? The first thing to do then is to move on. Move on!!! Not the easiest thing to do, but the most important. And moving on entails you do some things.

First off, forgive!! You have to let go!! The period isn't one to find out who is to be blamed, and who did what. Who cries over spit Viju milk? What has happened has happened! And you have to move on. If you can successfully forgive your x... your heart gets 60% repaired. The second step is the 40%, you now have 2learn from the failure. At least you failed/were failed & successful people learn from their failures. Right?
Look at what went wrong, and how you can make it right in the future. If you can forgive and learn... then you have successfully completed level 1 of the task. The task of course being handling breakups and heart breaks. The next level is you opening your heart for fresh and new possibilities. Easier than the first level. But as easier as it is or seems, a lot of folks fail at the task. Firstly, people find it hard to open up their heart after suffering heartbreak. Been that the uncertainty &fear as per what the outcome of the next relationship will be, stares at them in the face. However, that fear and uncertainty can only be conquered by still just opening up completely. Give yourself a chance. And give the other person a chance too. But approach the relationship differently. This time around, you should be coming with hindsight from the last relationship... it becomes useful here. The knowledge doesn't mean you have to compare and contrast. Could be misleading. It only helps you to watch the decision you want to make this time around, after you might have taken your time to think it through. 

Once beaten twice shy! True! But it only means you shouldn't make silly mistakes again, not that you should "lockup". If you can set things right from the very start,chances are that things could/would work out quite well this time around. They could work out. And there is still no 100% guarantee that things will end well. Yea! It isn't as if you know the future (except in spiritual cases..even in these cases, surprises spring up too at times) and since you can't guarantee if feelings could change in you or your potential partner, you can only stay in as much as love is a beautiful thingy, some things are just not meant to be and you can't alter destiny. So at times, no matter how two people try to make things work out and attain perfection for each other... if it isn't not destined to be, it won't be, regardless of how beautiful it looks. So what to do? If you are to take the relationship to the altar, then consult the altar. It's painful when two (acclaimed) matured minds go ahead with marriage, and one of 'em wakes up one day feeling weird& wanting a divorce, just for no reason!!! It's crazy!!! What(ever) happened to "for better or worse, till death do us part"? The divorce statistics are quite alarming and frightening especially in cases when either or both party have no "divorce-worth" reasons. At the end of the day, even the least God-conscious couple after a divorce, admit that it was a "mistake" and the mistake could be pre-matrimonial. This in most cases could be: refusal to involve God. 

Heart breaks are painful; some of them can be prevented by involving God from the very start. Doesn't hurt too but in the cases of those that got the God-approval, & things went wrong, you can always go back to God. At the end of it all, no matter how much info you get on how to manage a breakup, it still boils down to the fact that- it not happening to you is the best thing that can ever happen to you. 

We all deserve to have that soul mate of ours and live with him/her happily ever after. Pain makes you stronger, tears make you braver, and heartbreak makes you wiser. So thank the past for a better future. 

Heart broken or not, Life is sweet.


Culled from Twitter profile: @youngcerebral

1st Young and Cerebral Cooking Contest

Hello Chefs and Cooks!!!

We know you can stand the heat. We know you're a creative cook. And indeed, you've got a fast burner. But you've never been in a cooking contest like ours.

Starting from June 8 to July 8, we dare you to compete for honour, respect and prize as you unlock your cooking skills and slice your way through to the finals in the 1st Young & Cerebral Cooking Contest.

3 cooks with sterling performances will get Fridges, Cooker Ovens, Burners, Gas Cylinders, Sets of Cutlery, Set of Pots and yes an Internship placement plus a business development program.

To participate in this cooking contest, here are the 6 simple rules:

1. Make certain you are aged between 18-35 years

2. Make certain you are a Nigerian and you live in Nigeria


3. Like/Follow Young & Cerebral Facebook, Twitter & Instagram pages for updates


4. Upload a 5 minute video of the food you prepared yourself with details of recipe used on www.youtube.com/youngandcerebral (Use your phone plus good lighting. You need to make certain it is finally edited to 5 minutes including the beginning, middle and ending stages)

5.Ensure this meal has not been presented at a previous cooking contest


6.Have a friend objectively critic the food you prepared. Make a video recording of your friend’s feedback after tasting your food.


7.Get other friends to comment on and like your YouTube video.


Scores are based on:

1. Food preparation 

2. Presentation 

3. Wow factor 

4. Objective criticism from friend

5. General appearance 

6. Neatness 

7. Artistic quality

Now, we look forward to seeing those yummy videos.

Keep your knives sharpened.

Nimi's Birthday Shoot

Birthdays are days that should never be missed.

(Going Pastor Mode)

Its only by God's Grace and infinite Mercies that we wake up to see new dawns of everyday of our lives. It is also of utmost Grace and Mercy that we get to go through 365 days of our lives to see another great day of celebration of God's protection.......

(Out of trance)

Target photography brings you exclusive photos of the wonderful daughter God blessed The Adenijis with. Shot on the 22nd (her birth date) and 24th of May at her school and church. Had fun with the kids as "WE" (lol) were instructed to recite worship songs and praises.

Also view her Photo Book designed by Precious A (Instagram - @d.p_photo, 07012575911)

View photos below.......